Ask or Lose It

There are times in our lives where we realize how much we want something- so we ask for it. Unfortunately there are also times where we let those little things pass by without giving them the chance. We often live in a limbo of fearing rejection and a fear of losing what we want. Neglecting the cold truth that by asking, we increase our chance of receiving what we want.

Each of us experiences this dilemma at times. Maybe it was your mom asking what you wanted for Christmas. You just didn't know how to ask for something, because it seemed so selfish. Perhaps standing in the store one day clutching a shirt you knew you definitely didn't need. But the want was there- and we all do the wants vs. needs battle every time we make a choice.

The other day, while rolling this debate through my head, I came to the conclusion that there was no just reason to not ask. So mustering up the courage- I asked. Over the last 3 weeks, I have made a sincere point to be clear in how I communicate my wants.

There are so many little things, we all want. We let them pass by- we don't ask! What makes us so afraid to actually ask for what we want? If you want a raise at work, ask. If you want help in the kitchen doing dishes, ask! If you want someone to call or text you or just be on time, ask. We can't expect our little desires to be met, if we aren't putting it out there that we want it.

My roommate's boy got mad at her the other day because she spent an hour and a half at the gym. He expected that it would only be 45 minutes. He sat there huffing and puffing, wondering where she was. But he missed one crucial step, he forgot to communicate.

One of the most crucial of life's little challenges is asking for what we want. Don't let it bother you when others ask for things from you. Realize that they are setting clear markers and move forward to meet those needs. If you do this, in return, you will never go without something you really want.

If I am honest with myself about my real wants, then it becomes easier to ask. To let those around me know what I actually want and need. And the only way they will ever know things is if I ask.